It is not about the status in an economy that can determine what type of person he/she is, nor, an education of his/her parent attended. It is not the tangible possessions of the family have in order to be a successful individual. But these are the love, respect and discipline that the parent provided to their offspring.
I do not belong to a well-off family. My parents didn’t own hectares of land and they didn’t even finished their studies. My father was a former tricycle driver and my mother sells eggs in the market. It is our bread and butter ever since. In a small amount of income that my parents earned, no one can imagine how they able to send their seven children to school or even able to finished them to college. Yes, I am just a simple proud daughter of them.
When we were young I remembered how close the family was (or even now). Lived in a small house made up of nipa, bamboo, and coconut lumber. Lived in a simple life, no television, no internet or no any gadgets that most of us have right now. But I am thankful of being none of anything before because I experienced the strong bond of the family that mold me of what kind of person I am today. When we were young, the family ate meals together. I guess eating together is the best time to have bond. My father is the strict type. He the wanted that no one of his children went out at night. But at night, it was our best time to talk. Shared stories wherein my father and our eldest brother had lots of funny stories and even if it were repeated many times, we still laughed (I don’t understand why. Haha).
It is true that life was not easy for us. I remembered when it was raining it also raining inside our house because the nipa cannot support heavy rain. Sometimes we made it a joke that it is better to stay outside because it has lighter rain than inside the house. I witnessed how our parent worked for us. When my brother started to study in college it became harder for my parent. My mother decided to have an extra income. She cooked foods and resale it. Helping each other until my brother finished his Bachelor’s Degree, and then my second brother, and then my third brother and then me and then my younger brother and now our youngest brother still building his path for his future career. My sister isn’t finished her college course, but when I asked why she didn’t pursue her studies, I was impressed her answer, “I am the second child of the family, I have five siblings and most of them are man that in the future they will be responsible for making bread for their respective family. I need to sacrifice for all of you“. As a good woman like her, she was lucky that she found a good husband, her sacrificed worth and now she enjoys to be a full-time wife and mother on her two smart kids.
It is also normal that the family have conflicts. We also did about that. It was fixed. For me, love is the most important fundamental at home. Whatever challenges that the family experienced, it was easily overcome. At home, we need to have the full amount of love, the right amount of respect and discipline and put God at the center for every home. At home is the most influenced place for a person, of what and who he/she is right now…